How Can You Make Better Decisions?
In our personal and business sessions, clients often ask us how they can make better decisions. With every decision, there is a choice that must be made.
When someone presents a situation to us, we close our eyes, connect with our intuition, and internally see the energy of the options coming towards us. These colorful images move and unfold. Looking with our inner sight, we see the options take form. It soon becomes obvious to us which is the easier choice that yields the kindest results.
It is always easier to see the answers for someone else than it is to see it for ourselves. It is easier to take a neutral perspective when we don’t have any skin in the game. But with practice, you can get clearer answers for yourself.
You can use your intuition (inner sight) to understand your options. You can see beyond the physical to the energy behind a situation. You can notice how the energy moves in a certain direction.
You can notice blocks, or boulders on your path. You may see dark patches of weather that hinder you from moving ahead. You may notice the clouds parting. You may even notice the image of someone who wants to stop you or help you along the way.
To get a feel for this process, here is an easy exercise. Imagine that you have a simple decision to make. Where will you go for dinner? It is between restaurant “A” and restaurant “B.”
- Imagine an image of your first option, or restaurant “A,” in your mind’s eye. See the outside of the restaurant from a distant perspective. Now, imagine that you are at the front door. You open it and walk in. You walk between the tables and pick one that suits you. Go ahead and sit down. Open the menu and place your order with the waiter.
- Let yourself sit there for a moment while you are waiting for the food. What kind of vibe do you get in this space?
- Now, participate. Imagine that your food is being served to you. You take a bite. Notice how it tastes.
- Now, see yourself pushing back from the table, getting up and walking out of restaurant “A.” It is time to go to restaurant “B.”
- Imagine an image of your second option. In your mind’s eye, stand across from restaurant “B.” What do you notice about this place? Now, go to the door and walk in. Choose a table, sit down, look over the menu and order.
- Get a feel for what it is like to sit in this restaurant “B.” How comfortable do you feel? Is there anything you would change about this experience?
- Participate. Let the waiter bring you your order. Take a bite of your food. Notice what it tastes like to you.
- Now, see yourself standing up and walking out the door.
- From a neutral place, reflect on your experience of restaurant “A” and restaurant “B.” Which option feels lighter and happier? Which option feels heavier? What do you feel in your gut? What do your images tell you?
You can use this simple exercise to decide between any “A” and “B.” Practice this with other simple situations. Let yourself feel good about your ability to understand the differences in choices.
You are seeing beyond the physical and moving beyond analysis to engage your intuition. You could rationally say that one restaurant is better than the other, but, truly, each event is a subjective experience. It could be that the cook at your favorite restaurant is having a bad day and everyone is grumpy there now. Wouldn’t that be good to know intuitively before you go in?
Once you receive an answer from your intuition, take action. For example, go to the restaurant you chose in the exercise and check out the validity of your decision making process.
Even if you made a mistake with your choice, congratulate yourself for practicing with your intuition. You now have feedback for next time. Maybe next time, you will want to imagine yourself completing the whole meal. Maybe you will want to notice the noise of the place, the smell or take into account the people at the next table.
Each time you do this exercise, you become better at accessing your intuition for decision making. You could say that you and your intuition are in training together. It truly wants to be your friend.
As the stress in the world increases, it is more important than ever for us to go beyond the purely physical and see the energy behind everything we are doing.
Have a great time making decisions more easily and more intuitively!
by Anne Salisbury, PhD and Greg Meyerhoff
Go Intuition Newsletter, GoIntuition.com